our life

The first thing I must realize as a hoarder is that THINGS do not make me happy. They don't. I hoard them, don't use them, and then they end up piling in my house. I avoid living in my own home because the things are there, projects are left unfinished and life just isn't pleasant living in our home.The second thing I must realize is I may not get any help from Chris because he hasn't made it to my point yet, but it's okay to throw his stuff away--for my sanity.

When I decided to quit being a hoarder, I had initially gone room by room and started to clean. I was counting bags. I had the goal of creating at least 5 bags a week. When I finished the goal, I quit for the day and moved on. It was actually not so hard to do. Eventually, it became not so much of a challenge to let go of things. I did so well with it, until it came to Chris quitting. Chris wanted to focus on finishing projects. The only problem he has is he doesn't finish things. For example, he worked on the closet. We went and bought everything we needed to finish the closet. HOWEVER, he stopped sort because of the blizzard. The other trouble is I set up the closet, organized it, because I KNEW he wouldn't finish it and I decided that it just needed to do. We fought for several days, and then the subject was dropped. This is our pattern.


I need to break our pattern.